Friday, December 30, 2011

Bringing In the New Year Right!!

Wow, my people 2011 is almost over and a new year is now approaching ever so quickly! When I take a moment and sit and think about how fast this year has come and gone I start thinking about all the things that I did that I was proud of and the things I was not so proud of! I will say that most of the events that occurred sure taught me something that I will never forget and I am glad to say that God still loves me enough to allow me more time here on earth. More time on earth for me means more time to learn, to love, to grow, to teach, to succeed, to fail, to be thankful, to dream, to mature, to raise my son, to accomplish my goals, to help others and to enjoy life to the fullest! I have to say this year was great, because it was actually the first year for me that I literally took the time to seriously reflect on every decision I made and the outcomes of those decisions! The mistakes that I made I plan on not making again and I plan to continue to work on my patience, because my impatience caused me to make some decisions I seriously wish I hadn't! The great thing about life is that what it teaches us is absolutely awesome depending on how you view the lessons that are being brought to your chalkboard! I told myself that next year will be even better, because of my mind set and plans that I have for my life. No more unnecessary relationships with people that have no purpose for me and my life, no more hasty decision making, no more impatience, no more procrastinating and no more waiting to live the the life I want for me and my son, because it starts now!!  I will no longer limit and deprive myself of the wonderful things life has to offer me! Be optimistic, be focused on your dreams and goals and fall in love with yourself all over again so you can be you fully with no limits and as always stay busy loving you! HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! IT'S GOING TO BE A GREAT ONE, BUT REMEMBER THAT IS ENTIRELY UP TO YOU! PEACE AND GOD BLESS!!!!

Monday, December 19, 2011

30 Minute Love

It seems that love now a days lasts about 30 minutes and no one is in it for the long haul! The things that should be important are not a priority, while honesty, being faithful, caring, considerate, and sincere are almost nonexistent when it comes to most people! Every man for himself seems to be a lot of peoples attitude, while the people that possess these qualities appear to be dwindling down! One of the many things I enjoy doing in my spare time is watching old black and white classic films back when things were so much different when it came to love and the way men and women conducted themselves. I'd sit and watch these films thinking to myself saying, "What happen to men like that and where did they go?" I like how gentle, thoughtful, loving, caring and hard working the men were back then! Of course, they weren't all like that but it seemed that at least half of men had these qualities and that was the way of life back in those days. Men and woman of today aren't as fortunate unless they have someone in their life that have what I like to call that old school flavor running in their blood or these men and women just so happen to have inherited it! I was raised mostly by my grandparents in my younger years so all of the advice they gave me stuck with me. When I chose to talk to my grandparents about things that I experienced in life that bothered me or that I didn't understand they always had the best advice, because they had already experienced themselves! I feel that having them in my life constantly in my younger years and taking heed to their advice has a lot to do with if not mostly with my old school ways. My grandparents were married when they were in their teens and stuck it out for about fifty years which is almost unheard of these days! I believe being who you need to be for yourself first and being patient plays a big role in having a long lasting love with your one and only! Most people, including myself, have made the mistake in choosing the wrong person to love and most have also made the mistake in giving too many people their love which unfortunately has left them so heartbroken that they feel that they have no more love to give! I was having a conversation with one of my best friends and we were talking about relationships and he asked me if I have ever given my all in a relationship and I replied NO! I explained to him that the reason for this was, because I always knew that I would be married one day and my husband would be the one to get all my love in every way not some man that I wasn't sure was the one! There has always been something about me even as a little girl that was different and something was guiding me in the direction that I needed to go and all I had to do was listen! As I got older I started to listen to that guide and started thinking about the kind of man I needed in my life and when I figured it out I refused to settled for less! In other words, that 30 minute love of today just won't do for me and I plan to happily and patiently wait for the love I desire and deserve! Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't appreciate, love and deserve you!

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Strength, How Wonderful Once Obtained!!!!

We as people have more strength than we think we do. I feel that we as people also don't give ourselves enough credit when it comes to being able to go through situations that we think will kill us if we don't get through it within five minutes! I don't too much care for setbacks personally, but the harsh reality is that life is full of them and if it wasn't for setbacks then the strength that is needed to get through life won't be obtained! Strength is so important to have in this life to where it seems it is as important as the air we breath! I have been through so much and I can honestly say that I have not been through hell and back! When I read about this place called hell I think, "Man this is a really jacked up place that I would hate to spend eternity especially with what I already had to go through on earth!!!!" People, of course, exaggerate to the fifth degree when they say they have been through hell on earth and I understand that it may feel that way for a moment especially when that individual was literally in an accident that involved fire! It is a beautiful thing when you can say that you have been through some times that were tough but you are still here and your strength level has been kicked up a few notches which has just simply prepared you for more of life's difficulties that may lie ahead! I had the opportunity to listen to a sermon a few months ago at a church where my cousins baptism was held and this preacher said that he knows that we all have been through some things and that we still had a lot to be thankful for because we are still here! I thought to myself how right this man was and how at that very minute what he said triggered something within me that kicked my strength level up even more and how grateful I am for my life and the things I've been through because I'm a much stronger woman because of them!! I learned to be grateful for setbacks and tough times, because they teach something that no one else can teach you, which is how great your own personal strength is! I believe that God did something amazing when he created us ,because we are some awesome creatures that have this amazing ability to bounce back from tragedy when it strikes! What deeply saddens me is that so many people don't realize that most  of us were born with this ability and I am speaking specifically about those of us that have our right minds! So for those of us that recognize our strength I hope and pray that we continue to grow strong together, those of us that don't have the strength that is needed please don't give up and fight for it!!