Thursday, January 26, 2012
I was reading an article in one of my favorite magazines the other night and extremely enjoyed what the authors column was about, which was basically touching on the subject of rejection. Rejection is a very serious issue for some people whereas others can deal with it and move on. Rejection is a unfavorable part of life, but we just have to take rejection with a grain of salt like anything else in life that we don't like! The author was stating that rejection is just simply Gods way of redirecting you in the direction that you should be going, but most folks just don't realize that! People a lot of times get so bogged down with the fact that their plans didn't work out and they are blinded by that rejection so deep that they don't see the big picture! The big picture being your destiny that God has laid out for only you! Rejection is a painful thing to have to experience especially when it comes from those that are close to us. But the "ahh haa" moment for me was when the author was explaining that when reaching a point where you can accept rejection because you know that those plans weren't meant to be and that there is something better out there waiting! Move forward into your destiny that was designed just for you, the author states. I loved when he said that you should thank those that rejected you, because in all actuality they did you a favor. That man or woman that you wanted so bad could been deranged and caused you serious harm! That job you interviewed for could've caused some serious stress putting major weight on your health! That house you couldn't get financed may have had needed more repairs that you can afford! No matter what the rejection may pertain to be thankful and just know that God knows what he is doing in all situations! Don't let that rejection tear you down, dig deep within yourself and tell yourself that there is something a billion times better for me on the way! Be patient, wait for it, smile and enjoy the ride to your true destiny!
Sunday, January 1, 2012
This is strictly for the ladies who may not know or may have forgotten that you belong to a king, therefore that makes all of you queens in his eyes! Now is the time to take or reclaim your crowns and wear them with a vengeance to let all these fools that don't recognize a queen when they see one fall straight down on their faces! Let me ask this, do you feel like the queen that you where born to be and if not why? What is it and/or who is it in your life that makes you feel less of a queen? A lot of us are really great women, but we don't recognize it, which causes us to tend to settle for less and some of us a lot less than we ever imagined. Those of us that are settling for little to nothing when you know you are worth having so much more you need to start filtering out things and people that have no purpose for your life making you feel less than the queens that you are! I can't stress enough that when you start getting rid of the junk in your life that is holding you back and adding years to your face you will start feeling like you have shredded 50 pounds of fat! This is so important, because what will start happening is that power that you may have given up for lost will start to reappear and uplift your spirit! This is just the beginning and you should be proud that your taking the first steps in doing what you've needed to do for yourself all along. You still have a lot more work to do and it will be hard, but if you really want your crown it will be all worth it in the end trust me! Get in the habit of praying and write down all of the things that you need to change about yourself and all of goals that you have set for yourself and want to see become a reality. Start doing your part, because if you wait for God to do everything for you I bet my shoes you will be waiting until the world ends for things to start changing! Be encouraged to love and respect yourself, because if you don't no one else will! Don't wait for men to tell you your beautiful. You have to believe it for yourself and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself I'm beautiful, I'm worthy of all things great and beautiful! Speak these things and all the things you desire for yourself in your life every chance you get and watch yourself blossom into someone new and fierce! Ladies, when these men that are telling you what they want you to hear to get what they want and you still feel empty it's time to tell him that his time is up and his services will no longer be needed. I've been there and done that and I will tell you that a man will do what you let him. I don't recall any man in my past doing something so wonderful that it's causing my queedom to be put on hold! Any man or friend that doesn't bring out the best in you and puts a smile on your face every time the thought of them crosses your mind, unless your upset with them temporarily, they are not worth having in your life! You have to start asking yourself what is the point of hanging on to these people that are holding you back! If you can't answer that question with a positive response then it is time to say goodbye, which won't be easy! Guess what life's not easy, but you live it everyday and something presses you along so you can let go of those people that don't have your best interest at heart!! You will be alone for a while, and you may even feel like you've been abandoned, but you are not alone! You have God, you have your children if you are mothers, and you have family and friends that are in your corner! These individuals are the ones you keep close and hopefully you know the difference between real friends and family from enemies! If all you have is God then you honestly have more than enough to carry on and let go of that junk that you have been unnecessarily carrying around! Ladies, let God be your focus, mothers let your beautiful children be your focus and raise them to be the kings and queens that they were born and destined to be! Wives let your husbands be your focus as well, that is if he recognizes his queen that travels life's tough road along the side of him oh so gracefully like only queens can and if not then go ahead and give him that boot too! Recognizing that you are a queen is so important to me, because it is a gift given to you by your creator and anything that he gives you is WONDERFUL and GLORIOUS! It is important that in this life you keep a strong hold to what God gives you including people! I didn't always have the mindset of a queen and I had to learn it and teach it to myself! Those of us that were not told as little girls that we are princesses that have to love and respect our minds and bodies and to never let anyone take that away didn't have the opportunity to be blessed with that mindset as women! Then as women we would've known to obtain our throne of queendom a lot sooner! So please don't blame yourselves, because now you know! Now, the question is what are you going to about it and when, because you are running out of time? I had a young man tell me earlier this year that I was a queen, because God said so! This young man who did not know me personally told me that I settle for less in my life and he asked me why? I told him that I didn't know why, and that he was right about what he was telling me and it also made me realize that I still had a lot more work to do spiritually and mentalally! For this man to come up to me and tell me this was a serious reality check for me! That was none other than our heavenly father speaking through him to me, because he knew I was tired of settling for less and being caught up in my old pointless ways! I needed more change, I needed to love myself more, I needed to be a better woman, I needed to be an even better mother for my son, I needed to upgrade from a princess to a queen! I took charge and now nothing and nobody can stop me! I understand that some of you are ready and some are not and never will be! Those of you that are not don't be envious of women that have reached their plateau of their queendom, because we definitely don't go around unrecognized! You know queens when you see us! Take that negative energy and flip it so you can take charge of your life so you can obtain your crown and be the queen you are set out to be!! Let that be your focus! STAY BUSY LOVING YOU AND ALL HAIL TO THE QUEENS OF 2012!